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Teaching Kids to Talk (and Listen) to God

I once shocked a bunch of kids while giving a children’s sermon.

I told them it didn’t matter if they bowed their heads or even folded their hands when they prayed.  That they certainly could pray while kneeling with their hands folded and their heads bowed, but that they could also pray while lying in bed or running or eating lunch. I told them that some of the best times of prayer I had were while walking or folding laundry or when my hands and body were otherwise engaged.

I don’t think I’m exaggerating to say that this information blew their minds.

We sometimes forget just how literal children can be. That when we tell them to bow their heads and make “praying hands” to pray, that sometimes they think that’s the only way they can pray. Sometimes they even think that the position of their body is the most important part of prayer.

My seven-year-old struggles with this on a daily basis. He’s constantly confessing to me after we pray that he touched his head or scratched his nose or didn’t close his eyes. Over and over again I tell him I don’t believe God really cares about those things. That there is no one right position for praying. I ask him just to try to be respectful to God with his body. It is a very hard lesson for him to learn (or to unlearn).

Adults too can be guilty of limiting our ideas about prayer in this way. I once surprised a group of earnest spiritual formation-focused adults by telling them that sometimes my family prayed before dinner by holding each other’s ears instead of our hands. At the time we were trying to get our older son to stop pulling away from our hands during mealtime prayers, and the ear-holding worked beautifully. It also caused him to begin each one of these prayers with a smile on his face. It was a revelation to him, I believe, that praying could be light-hearted.

I was much older than he when I learned this lesson. It wasn’t until ninth-grade confirmation class that I first understood prayer meant simply talking to God. Until then I too had viewed prayer as something extremely formal, to be done with certain words and while in a certain pose. It came as a welcome surprise that I could just…talk. And even more surprising to me as an adult when I began to understand that you could pray while you were doing other things, that you could carry on a constant conversation with God as you were going about your day.

How do we teach our children about spontaneous, conversational prayer? Well, as with most things I’m trying to teach my children, I believe my own actions are the most effective teacher.

I try to pray aloud spontaneously when my children can hear–in the car when we see an accident, when we hear upsetting news. At night when I pray with them before bed, I try to cover a lot of different types of prayer–thanking, asking, praising–and more than one perspective by praying for concerns both within our own house and the larger world.  Sometimes I put an inside joke in our prayers, thanking God for something like the baby sitting on the potty. God certainly knows our inside jokes, and I like the idea of my children smiling or even laughing in prayer. To me, the only rule is to be respectful of God, to remember that God is Creator and we are the created.

Some other ways to model prayer for our children: We can be quiet together, reminding our children that prayer also involves listening, that sometimes prayer is just trying to be quiet and listen for what God might be trying to teach us.

We can also pray aloud with our kids as we walk to school or walk the dog, thanking God for the beauty we see in creation.

We can even stop in a moment of disagreement and pray aloud about it. That is perhaps the most difficult kind of prayer to model. In these times I’m always reminded that even when I’m praying with the idea of modeling prayer for my children, God uses that prayer to help and form me. Maybe even more so than my private prayers.

I want to teach my children and to remind myself that we can come before God in prayer any time and with any emotion.

So grab those ears and try it out!

Daily Tasks Are Real Life

My daughter is 15 months old. What that means for my house is that there is no safe place to keep the toilet brush. That as I put the dirty dishes into the dishwasher, she is joyfully unloading them on the other side. And that she empties all the kitchen cabinets she can reach every […]

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One Easy Way to Simplify Family Life

This time of year many of us start to think about simplicity. Practicing Christian simplicity is about doing less or having less in order to focus more on God. I think many of us want to better practice simplicity in our family lives but find it hard to know where to say no. Something that […]

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Holy Labor

Childbirth is an exciting and terrifying prospect. For each of my three pregnancies, as my stomach grew larger, so did my anxiety and dread about the birth itself. Just as the marriage is more important than the wedding, the baby is more important than the birth. Yet at the same time, when you hit 8 […]

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What I’ve Learned from My Cancer Diagnosis

      I was 39 weeks pregnant when I was diagnosed with breast cancer last October.   I’m not sure what (or who) exactly caused me to ask my nurse-practitioner to do a breast exam at my OB-GYN appointment. At the time it felt like part of that final nesting surge of wanting everything […]

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Have You Affirmed Your Family Today?

Last week at dinner my younger son casually turned to me and said, “These are the things I like about you, Mommy, that you play Legos with me, that you play puppies with me, that you hug me and that you’re a good mommy.” Not to be outdone, his older brother immediately chimed in, “And […]

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Mom of Boys and. . .

I often tweet with the hashtag #momofboys. I’ve realized over the past (almost) nine years of being a mom of one and then two boys how much a part of my identity this has become. I think of myself as a mom of boys, and I love it. From the furious activity to the soccer […]

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